Monday, October 10, 2011

Rebuilding Your Broken Marriage

I’m posting here the sermon points from yesterday.  For the full length video and the broader context of the sermon, go to our church website, and click the “watch sermons” category.

Rebuilding Your Broken Marriage: Ephesians 5:21-33

Three Assumptions:

  1. A Recommitment to a relationship with Christ (or the establishment of a new)
  2. Reaffirm desire for reconciliation with spouse
  3. Re-consecration of the marriage to the Lord

I.  Seek help and Intervention – agree together to get help

  • Diffuse the immediate crisis
  • Seek Godly help and counsel
  • Keep intensity level down by having a referee

II. Rework the Communication System

  • Make your communication Honest but not Hostile
  • Identify the core issues – what’s underneath the surface?
  • Resolve issues, do not regurgitate them
  • Receive coaching and clarification

III. Create a Process for Restoring Trust

  • Eliminate distractions
  • Define acceptable behavior
  • Create and environment of openness and vulnerability
  • Expect accountability as a necessity – accountable to spouse and to others
  • Set markers to celebrate

IV. Draft a Plan for Personal Health

  • Immerse in a healthy Christian culture/environment
  • Immerse the mind and heart in the transforming power of scripture and prayer
  • Eradicate unhealthy and unholy behaviors
  • Conduct periodic evaluation and have consistent accountability